If you are considered to be one of those socially choosy geeks and nerds (since people would sometimes misunderstand your likes), dating would be hard. You would sometimes end up online looking for tips on how to mask yourself and cover up your nerdy ways, but the answer there is not to pretend; it is actually to be yourself.
Here are some tips on how you would find someone who fits exactly who you are:
TIP No. 1 – What Kind of Geek are You?
This is the most crucial tip everyone should know. If you are in to something that not everyone is fond of, the answer is not to forget that hobby. Find someone who enjoys doing the same. Dating isn’t just about knowing someone and falling in love, it’s actually more complicated than that so to save yourself from damage, the very first step is to know what kind of geek you are and find someone who is the same.
TIP No. 2 – Develop a Strong Foundation
If you already started a relationship or have been in a relationship for long, it’s important to see if things are still on the same page. That is why pretending is never an answer because sooner or later the truth would come out. It is highly advised to time to time check if you and your partner are enjoying the momentum or you’re the only one fueling it up since they’re not into the same thing and when this happens, you could start deciding if it’s worth the fight.
TIP No. 3 – Be Confident of Who You Are
You are dating because you want to be with someone who you will be comfortable with, who will appreciate your weirdness and see it as something likeable and amazing. When you try to be somebody else, the relationship you’ll be getting in to might not succeed because your partner will expect you to be that someone. There is nothing wrong with being a nerd, everybody is weird! Just find that someone who wants to be weird with you.
TIP No. 4 – Practice Talking
One of the difficulties geeks go through is to be open with everyone. Well, if you really want to go to a date, you should practice talking. This is one way to gain confidence on coming up to somebody that captivated you. You can’t deny that when you talk to someone, they tend to see you as a know-it-all (most likely you are) but when you practice talking to different people, you could gradually adjust to different personalities and even discover how to deal with those who give you the weird stares.
TIP No. 5 – Be an Interesting Geek
Despite being interested on weird stuffs, it is still a good tip to stay updated with current issues or to interesting things that are trending. This does not mean that you should like or favor everything, it is still important to have opinions on certain matters in order to be ready for any possible topic you might encounter on a date. You don’t want your date to see you as someone trapped under a rock for a long time.
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